Fathers day

Father is one of the first few words a child is always introduced too and for a father the first words by his son as father are very touching and life time remembered.

Now I will try to write my phase of becoming a father to the present father's day.Although it is my personal I would like to express it and store it for a life time. As my blogs are "as I see and feel". Here it goes;

The idea of getting married is a thrill for any person it may be a boy or girl and I am no exception. But since I saw my sister getting married and having her first child very close to their anniversary, I was confused as I wanted to get married but didn't want to have a child at least before completion of 3-4 years of marriage and the main point was will it be taken in the same spirit by my would be wife that we need to enjoy our life a bit before we take the responsibility of one more person. But I felt this topic would be not right to make it a criteria while selecting my wife. So went ahead and selected a girl from my home town and we are happily married. Then came the question of how to explain it to my wife and I managed to tell her and she agreed which made me happy. But I think you all know of the Indian mentality of the parents and inlaws about having a grandchild as soon as they have their children married. I have to say in this aspect It is the ladies who hav to face tough situation rather than gents. But my wife was stuck between me and all others but we some how managed it. And I forgot to mention one of the main reasons for not having child according to me is to have ur disturbed sleep at nights as I saw my sister family spending many nights without sleep...it may sound silly to you but I was clear.

Although we had to wait for knowing that we will have our first child it was the timing which created a little hassle. I confirmed my job for moving to Singapore and 1 week later to that we knew that we are going to be parents and as per doctor advise my wife cannot travel abroad and has to stay in India only. Then the discussion whether to abandon the idea of Singapore but it was a long cherished dream to go to Singapore . Finally with an understanding that I will be visiting every two months and a promise to stay with my wife on the due day and my inlaws going to take care of her I moved to Singapore. It was a very tough phase. And as u all know the ladies will have a lot of wishes in the time from conceiving to delivering which they want their husbands to fulfill, I did my best in my visits and I am thankful to my wife for understanding.

The tentative deliver date was informed and I was prepared to come to India then. One fine morning about 3weeks from the tentative date I got a call saying the my wife delivered a baby boy and they did not inform me because it was sudden in the mid night India time and they don't want me to get tensed. I was thrilled and sad too. Thrilled for the wonderful news , sad that I could not keep my promise to be on the delivery date. I wanted to fly the same day but was informed that due to some stars of birth etc I cannot seem him even if I come and the naming function was decided on 21st day from date of birth and I cannot fly two times.

Although the technology was well in place but my inlaws did not allow my son pic o b clicked and send to me. So I was only hearing about him through words of all including my wife. I was unable to control but had no choice but to be away from my seeing my diet child. The days flew and finally saw my son and my wife and the tears just rolled down. So did not lose any time nd they were in Singapore in the next 2 months.

Although I was happy of their coming but the worry of getting less sleep had kept me bothered.....as I thought it happened I used to get less sleep although my wife managed a lot as she knows I hate less sleep. But I tried to do my best. I was waiting for he day for my son to call me "papa" and the day arrived and I was so happy....

As he grew up I learned a lot of things like having more patience, spending time with him rather than on the net, things to make him happy and I missed a lot like movies in theatres, avoiding late night parties etc etc. As he grew I started like the cartoons their stories their movies. Now I enjoy cartoons as much as he enjoys.

Coming to today when he is 5 years old , he made a tie for me which reads to my " best dad, I love u dad". Seeing it made me emotionalH. I never thought that being father has so much happy feelings linked to it. Now we enjoy the gadgets iPhone,iPad,galaxy sii with lots of games, videos etc. I never felt so happy......I thank my wife and god for making me a father. I know it's only the beginning ....it has a long way to go........

Sorry if it was so long I tried to make the post short but as I am new to blogging I could not may be I will learn it sometime.

Just returned from iifa awards....

Finally I have done it. Watched IIFA awards live in Singapore . The evening started with we reaching an hour before the awards show to get a glimpse of the stars. But all we could see the stars going to th awards in posh BMW cars with black glasses where u will not be able identify who was in it. I was disgusted that there was no way people can see the stars going in. So moved to our entrance to notice some 100 persons already in que to enter the venue. The people were stunning dressed like all the type of fashions in the world . 90 percent were Indians but some locals too. The ambience was good. Although we had to wait for some time enjoyed the peoples fashion show. We noticed some persons and knew they came from Malaysia a four hour drive from Singapore. We were allowed to go in and once we reached in we were stunned by seeing the iifa set. It was mind blowing. We reached our allotted seats and due to the careful selection of the seats we had full view of the entire stage and the entire area where all the stars will be sitting. Then saw a Harley Davidson bike in some corner of the stadium. Wow. Was dreaming what was for that? The stars started arriving the crowd was crazy shouts whistles the ambience was electrifying . Saw Vivek Oberoi with wife, naris fakhri, sonakshi sinha, rekha, priyanka chopra, bipasha , sreedevi,parineeti chopra, prabhudeva....the list goes on. The award show started with shahid kapoor entering the bike I mentioned the crowd yelled screamed. The heat was raising up. Followed by awards and performances. The lights the music and the ambienc was too good it is to be experienced. My wife and I are having great time. The performances started with of sonakshi sinha, prabhudeva dance, shahid kapoor dance, bipasha dance, randhir and rishi kapoor together, priyanka chopra dance for rekha movies etc..... It was one of the most memorable days. Enjoyed every moment. Only sad thing was could not get a snap with any of the stars but happy saw them in person, saw them talking, saw them dancing. The result made a commitment not to miss any award show live if it's happening in city I stay......this was a memorable weekend. IIFA rocks...................

IIFA 2012 in Singapore and My Tale to see it live

I am a fan of Bollywood like millions but was not having the patience to watch award shows on tv fully for 4 hrs or so. But when I first came to know in march 2012 that IIFA awards 2012 will be hosted in Singapore I was thrilled. I came to Singapore for my new job in 2012. This is my second stay after my initial stay from 2006 to 2009. Coming to about iifa awards now, I suddenly realised that it's such a coincidence that I am in Singapore now and this will be the best chance to watch any award show live and that too iifa awards will be a life time experience. I forgot to mention my wife is a hard core bollywood fan and will not miss any award show on tv even though she has to watch it alone as I always watch for some time and go to sleep. Now when I told her about the iifa she said this is it, I should see it live. Then started the exercise of searching for tickets available dates etc on Internet. To my surprise I saw on net that iifa 2011 which happened in toronto the 26000 tickes were sold out in 7 minutes of the start of sale. This made me shocked and worried too. Then it was mandatory that I know the exact date of sale so that I manage to get the tickets before they are sold off. Then finally came to know of the tickets sale date which happens on a Saturday. The date has arrived and finally when went online to book tickets I realised that kids below 8 years are not allowed. This is a shock for me as I have 5 year old son. Then what to do....book or not book......discussion with wife. The time is ticking the tickets are getting over fast.....so finally we decided to book tickets so that we request one of my friends family to look after my kid for a evening. By the time we decided that and went online again I was unable to get a couple tickets in any of the gallery as the options to select seats was not so user friendly. Got vexed after trying for sometime. Then thought th best way is to approach counter which was 15 min from my place . Rushed to the counter to be told that only one couple seat were left and all other seats were single seats. It may be luck of my wife I think I grabbed the tickets. I was thrilled somehow by seeing the tickets in hand. Called wife from there and she was happy we could manage tickes in the budget we could afford. After getting hom logged in again to check tickets for better seats and to m surprise the tickets in the budge we thought are sold out....... Had a sigh of peace that we could manage tickets. Although there were other tickets in higher price range which was not in reachable price as per our budget. Now this weeken June 9 is the event. Seeing all the videos on tv and net including twitter etc where updates are continuous that arriving of stars, rehearsals, stars posting pics is making my heart beat faster realising the bollywood stars so near to my plac now. In this all excitement got a update sharukh khan is not attending ....he was he sole of iifa for a lot of years.....so suddenly got sad.......but got update salman khan attending ...wow so suddenly got the excitement again. With a host of lot of celebrities attending it should be fun. As the days are nearing the excitement is raising..... Hope to enjoy my first live awards show that too like iifa with my dearest wife. This should be a memorable event..... Will post a blog after iifa about our experience at iifa. Hope I did not bore you all with my personal tale........